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The Family Systems Therapy or Systemic
Constellation Work is the most recent step on my path as a holistic healer. My own constellations
were deeply transforming, and literally gave me my own life back. . Bert
Hellinger, the great German therapist, started to practice the Family Constellations in psychotherapy over
30 years ago. Much of it can be found in ancient ways of healing that were practiced in traditional communities. Through his
evolving work Hellinger has given us a gift to see beyond the ego-matrix, to be friendly with Life and with Death and to
come into harmony with the unknown forces that shape our families and personal histories... a chance to change our
inner images and heal our lives. . Constellation work helps resolve entanglements with other members of our family system, most obviously
our own parents but also others - often people who have been forgotten or excluded by the family. One of the basic principles
is that everyone belongs equally. A stillborn child, a mother's first love, an uncle's victim, the father's ex-wife all belong
to the system and need a place within it. If they are not acknowledged and given a place someone down the line will have to
carry their feelings or the burden of their fate for them. The work follows certain observable orders but primarily relies on the information coming from
the "knowing field" that arises as soon as the constellation is set up. As the process unfolds, unconscious
loyalties and indentifications come to surface and are dealt with by means of simple sentences and changes in positioning.
Harmony in a family system is restored when every member of the system carries their own responsibility and their own fate,
and has their proper place within the system. A descendant/child (the client) is then free to be his/her own person and love
can flow in a new, enlightened way. . BLIND LOVE: The blind
love and unconscious loyalty to our family makes us say to those who carry pain, sorrow, difficult
fate, guilt, etc.:
ENLIGHTENED LOVE:
In the workshop, the person having her constellation states the issue
and chooses other workshop participants to represent her and the members of her family system. The representatives are placed
in the room in a spacial relationship to one another, a reflection of the client's inner image of the system (hence the
name "constellation"). While occupying the position of a particular member of the system they are able to quite
accurately report on the feelings of the people they represent. They feel, for example, pulled towards others or repelled
by them, thus revealing the hidden dynamics and tensions within the system that relate to the issue in question. Working with
this constellation involves helping the initial image shift in the direction of resolution and results in the client gaining
a new image of his family system and his place in it. The soul forces can now flow through this new, balanced inner image
and create an improved experience that reflects its harmony. .
The one-on-one consultations take place in my office
or over the phone. We set up the family system either with little wooden figures to represent the family members or in the
dreamlike field of imagination. . . This is what Bert Hellinger says about his work in the introduction to "Rising
in Love": "The *Hellinger sciencia,* spelled this way deliberately, is a *scientia universalis* in the original philosophical tradition. It is a universal science of the orders - and even of the laws- that are at work in all important human connections and interactions. First of all the orders apply to the relationships within the family, which means the relationship between man and woman, between parents and children, including their upbringing. And this science covers the orders in our work life, in organizations and institutions, and it extends to the orders between larger groups, such as peoples and cultures. At the same time it is a *scientia universalis* of the disorders that lead to conflict in human relationships and that separate people instead of bringing them together. These orders and disorders are also transmitted to the body. They play an important role in diseases - and in the health of body, soul, and mind. Why do I use this term *Hellinger sciencia*? Over several decades I have gained these insights and described them freely. I have tested them in real- life situations, and publicly. This has allowed people to examine the effects of these insights within themselves as well as in their relationships and in their actions. The empirical approach shows that we are dealing with a proper science here. As a science, the Hellinger sciencia is a work in progress, meaning that it continues to evolve through my work and through the experience and insights of numerous others, who have made a commitment to it – and to the consequences. As a living science, it does not form the static foundation for a school, as if it was completed and could be passed on and learned as something definite and conclusive. Development proceeds without efficiency control, as it cannot be assessed by standards that lie outside of it, and then be expected to justify itself before them. Its verification lies in its effects and its success. This is an open science in every regard."
- Bert Hellinger . . AFTER YOUR CONSTELLATION
(Adapted by Sheila Saunders from a brief paper by Heinz Stark) You have received new insights and healing images in the soul’s unique language. This has a deep impact and can give your life new direction. Our soul is not a machine that turns on and off. It has it’s own ways to digest and assimilate what touches it. Thoughts are quick; the soul moves slowly. On a soul level, we are deeply connected with all the members of our family system, living and dead. The healing effects of the work unfold in their own time when we let go of the need to do something. As we hold all those who belong to our family in conscious love, respecting their fates and their burdens as their own, then the childlike loyalties where love and belonging meant living out the consequences of another’s life will serve no further purpose. Suffering is replaced with acknowledging what is. You may, along the way, encounter resistance in the form of thoughts or fears. Just recall the relief you felt deep inside you, when a solution was found or a new image came to light. The soul now holds this new image and will assimilate it over time in the most beneficial way. Any attempt to influence the process by talking, thinking, analyzing or researching is completely unnecessary. Trust that you will move forward. The process will unfold over months, even years. If you want to share your experiences, share the new insights rather than the original problem. Looking at the solution allows the problem, which is now past, to have a positive influence on the present. And the present is all there is. All the best to you! READ MORE:
Go to Bert Hellinger's website: Go to Behavioral Genetics website. . .
, "Among the major consequences of trauma are
dissociation, chronic pain, existential despair, and a profound sense of alienation. These
"broken connections" represent a fragmentation in the relationship to self, to others and to the larger matrix supportive
of human life. This is similar to what Martin Buber called "...a wound in the order of being". Within
these patterns of fragmentation one can find somatically encoded emotional and behavioral stress patterns that emerge over
time throughout the physical body. Long before the advent of modern therapies trauma
was understood and treated by shamans, medicine men and wise women. within these archaic traditions it was implicitly understood
that healing always involved some version of reuniting a disconnected part with the greater whole. This ancient wisdom is
still relevant for these of us who encounter the many levels of fragmentation within a traumatic experience" - Angwynn StJust
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